The more I hang out the more I learn. Last night I went out with my cousin and some of his friends, one male and 3 females. It opened my eyes. There is one skill I haven't touched on yet and its a great ice breaker and its a skill that will get you pussy left and right. I would say it goes hand to hand with being in shape and confident.
This is so fucking underrated in the community its not funny. Its something so stupid and simple yet so powerful ... well I'm talking about DANCING.
If you know your way around a dance floor you can achieve whatever you want to with the girls there. It would be as simple and asking her name, presenting yourself and ask her to dance. If you got the things I've been writing off, this incredibly direct approach will work wonders.
For instance: on this week alone I've danced with many HOT girls. Why? because guys nowadays dont learn how to dance, they learn how to dance NON-seductive or extremely sexual dances. I live in Puerto Rico. We got reggaeton around here. Is it easy to be direct with girls about dancing and score with it? hell to the NO. They have shields they up like the fucking Great Wall of China and they know how to control themselves and many girls just avoid dancing with unknown guys. So you cant be direct and ask girls to dance sexual dances with you.
For the lots of non-latino guys that visit this blog this is reggaeton:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rb96lwcgrh0
If you dance face to face its even more sexual and can lead to Kiss close. Ive done it, that shit had lead me to virtually having sex there on the dance floor. Knowing how to dance is VERY powerful.
I classify pub music in 3 kinds:
1. Sexual - sexual being reggaeton. Very suggestive dancing and lots of body contact.
2. Seductive - not a sexual and suggestive way of dancing but with lots and I repeat LOTS of flirting, some contact, many moves and its usually complicated to learn it.
3. Non sexual/non seductive - something boring that unless you put some flavor into it, its not going to take you anywhere.
The most important is the seductive. If you learn to be seductive while dancing and being flirty and interesting shes going to fall for you. Many girls think, if he can dance good, he can fuck good(this comment has came straight from girls mouth). Since most of the time the seductive dances are complicated, guys dont take the time to learn them, they learn the sexual dances and when the time comes and the seductive songs come around they stand around there while the girls dance alone wanting somebody to take her for a spin. This is the perfect time to strike. You take her for a spin like nobody with your suave moves and shes going to be all over you. Better yet, you take her for a spin and you are sensual with her and when the sexual tunes comes shes going to be all over you.
This is so basic its dumb guys don't realize this.
The scene around here its like this: they primarily play reggaeton, then a little bit of hip hop, bit of trance, a tiny bit of pop, some merengue, salsa and bachata. The opportunities come when they play merengue and bachata but if you know salsa and you pick up a girl to dance salsa you got her in the bag. Salsa is a killer here in PR. Look around and identify the kinds of dance styles there are and find your "salsa" and kill the competition in the dance floors. BTW salsa is known very well across the world, if you manage to learn it you are surely going to impress a lot of ladies. Better yet you can take a couple of girls home to "teach" them how to dance. Later on you can use them as wingwomen to impress even more girls and repeat the process.
Once again, like I said, this is so simple to identify, this is something that many of you should have found out on your own because its so fucking basic. If you haven't done anything about it, do it now and become the guy every girl wants in the bar and show off your dancing skills XD
So in conclusion: learn how to dance, ask her directly, woo her with your skills, be flirty and when the sexual dances come seal the deal being sexual and flirty. So simple.
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domingo, 19 de septiembre de 2010
jueves, 9 de septiembre de 2010
I'm going to make an experiment!
I've been kinda skeptic about it and I've seen people being skeptic about it. I wanted to find somebody that would do it, instead I will be the one doing this experiment of faith. Since I know I'm pretty good at it right now, I dont think I wont go to a point of no return if this method were to royally fuck my game. Instead of going for natural game where beauty is more "important" i decided im going to work with the Mystery Method for the next couple of months.
Since Ive heard of people being successful with it, I've decided to take it as a training wheels sort of thing and go for it and report back with my findings. This should be easy. Everything is pretty much scripted. This should be a great training tool for newbies. Except the crazy rules. Those ill ignore.
I will report my progress. By November i should have a verdict. Be sure to comment on my experiment.
GAME ON
Since Ive heard of people being successful with it, I've decided to take it as a training wheels sort of thing and go for it and report back with my findings. This should be easy. Everything is pretty much scripted. This should be a great training tool for newbies. Except the crazy rules. Those ill ignore.
I will report my progress. By November i should have a verdict. Be sure to comment on my experiment.
GAME ON
viernes, 3 de septiembre de 2010
The Four Headed Monster: Opening
Opening is very easy once you get the hang of it. Do we all get kinda scared when we are going to do it? Yes we do. Being confident and having a thick skin will help you open and continue opening no matter how bad things go. More importantly things shouldn't go bad. At least not all the time.
Pre-Opening
Look around in a normal way. Don't start looking at girl up and down and staring at their body. They feel this shit and its pretty needy and stupid to do so. Its like you desire her and you wont get her this way for sure. Try to get eye contact, if you do and she holds it smile and walk towards her. If you don't get eye contact don't worry still open her and work your game. Nothing should stop you.
If you pass by a girl you like brushing her so she notices you its a good thing, also tapping on her like you are going to tell her something and saying something like excuse me and move forward its very strong. If she does give you puppy eyes go for it. Touching her with backhand to backhand contact its nice and lefts her thing whether you did it on purpose or not. She will also start consistently looking at you which may get other girls to do the same.
When you open you get one of 3 responses. A neutral or shy response, a negative response or a good response. As soon as you get that response opening is pretty much done. So why are we so scared of opening if its just a couple second interaction? Rejection. Like it or not many of the so called PUAs are attention seeking, insecure, validation whores. For many that's the reason they play the game. To seek female validation that they never got early on in their lives.
Lets talk about those 3 responses.
1. Good response: she laughs, starts contributing to the topic, asks you questions. Very easy to keep it going and go wherever you want to go with to. I suggest you turn it sexual immediately. Work Kino and work towards a kiss.
2. Bad response: this is the second best thing that can happen, she says something negative, you show confidence, non needyness and you just answer back with something clever. If you manage to turn her around, you pretty much got her. Very easy to close her if you turn her around. If you dont you know shes a bitch and just keep opening other girls. No frustration over somebody that you spend less than a minute talking with. Strong body language, don't show Indicators of Interest(IOI) and your goal must be to either use humor or neg her. One of those would
3. Shy response: I fucking hate this! This is definitely the worst thing that could happen. One word answers, you feel like you are pulling teeth with her, she acts very shy and it fucking sucks. Working for comfort here is the key. Use submissive body language and show you are not a threat. Look at her in the eyes so she knows you are not lying. Don't Kino her a lot yet, give her a break to get accustomed to your presence. Don't get very close to her either. Mix humor with seriousness and you may get her. Don't expect to do with things with her. If shes is a shy girl its probably going to be hard to crack her open.
We use a technique that consists of talking to every single girl that passes in front of us. This is great, shows you are very social, we have landed several girls this way. Just using fun/funny lines gets the job done. We have used the " every time you touch me its $10" line, ive negged a couple girls that were pushing of being rough and it was worked like a charm too. Its a matter of opening everything you have around. Being fun, looking around and observing what going on around you. Once you develop the observing part and coming up with something funny you will have success.
About the infamous 3 sec rule: it wasn't invented so that you gotta do it in that period of time, its more of a suggestion. A guideline so you dont choke or sit there the whole night waiting for the miraculous moment when you are supposed to succeed and you still fail and accomplish nothing when that happens. So true it happened to me last night, opened a set, that I had been looking at for a while, had locked eye contact and everything. I FAILED. I walking towards the bartender and I see a girl I like and I went for it at that exact moment like 1 second later and halfway through the interaction SHE was asking for my number. Asked me to please call her so we could go out alone this weekend(she was there with 4 or 5 female friends). We also danced and we had a lot of fun. Very solid #close. I didn't use canned lines or anything like it, just pure me being myself, being fun and being THE MAN.
Key qualities you should work on:
Like anything in life, practice makes perfection. You gotta practice, practice, practice some more until you get the groove of things and you succeed. Good luck and If you got any question post it here in the comments.
PRjav
Pre-Opening
Look around in a normal way. Don't start looking at girl up and down and staring at their body. They feel this shit and its pretty needy and stupid to do so. Its like you desire her and you wont get her this way for sure. Try to get eye contact, if you do and she holds it smile and walk towards her. If you don't get eye contact don't worry still open her and work your game. Nothing should stop you.
If you pass by a girl you like brushing her so she notices you its a good thing, also tapping on her like you are going to tell her something and saying something like excuse me and move forward its very strong. If she does give you puppy eyes go for it. Touching her with backhand to backhand contact its nice and lefts her thing whether you did it on purpose or not. She will also start consistently looking at you which may get other girls to do the same.
When you open you get one of 3 responses. A neutral or shy response, a negative response or a good response. As soon as you get that response opening is pretty much done. So why are we so scared of opening if its just a couple second interaction? Rejection. Like it or not many of the so called PUAs are attention seeking, insecure, validation whores. For many that's the reason they play the game. To seek female validation that they never got early on in their lives.
Lets talk about those 3 responses.
1. Good response: she laughs, starts contributing to the topic, asks you questions. Very easy to keep it going and go wherever you want to go with to. I suggest you turn it sexual immediately. Work Kino and work towards a kiss.
2. Bad response: this is the second best thing that can happen, she says something negative, you show confidence, non needyness and you just answer back with something clever. If you manage to turn her around, you pretty much got her. Very easy to close her if you turn her around. If you dont you know shes a bitch and just keep opening other girls. No frustration over somebody that you spend less than a minute talking with. Strong body language, don't show Indicators of Interest(IOI) and your goal must be to either use humor or neg her. One of those would
3. Shy response: I fucking hate this! This is definitely the worst thing that could happen. One word answers, you feel like you are pulling teeth with her, she acts very shy and it fucking sucks. Working for comfort here is the key. Use submissive body language and show you are not a threat. Look at her in the eyes so she knows you are not lying. Don't Kino her a lot yet, give her a break to get accustomed to your presence. Don't get very close to her either. Mix humor with seriousness and you may get her. Don't expect to do with things with her. If shes is a shy girl its probably going to be hard to crack her open.
We use a technique that consists of talking to every single girl that passes in front of us. This is great, shows you are very social, we have landed several girls this way. Just using fun/funny lines gets the job done. We have used the " every time you touch me its $10" line, ive negged a couple girls that were pushing of being rough and it was worked like a charm too. Its a matter of opening everything you have around. Being fun, looking around and observing what going on around you. Once you develop the observing part and coming up with something funny you will have success.
About the infamous 3 sec rule: it wasn't invented so that you gotta do it in that period of time, its more of a suggestion. A guideline so you dont choke or sit there the whole night waiting for the miraculous moment when you are supposed to succeed and you still fail and accomplish nothing when that happens. So true it happened to me last night, opened a set, that I had been looking at for a while, had locked eye contact and everything. I FAILED. I walking towards the bartender and I see a girl I like and I went for it at that exact moment like 1 second later and halfway through the interaction SHE was asking for my number. Asked me to please call her so we could go out alone this weekend(she was there with 4 or 5 female friends). We also danced and we had a lot of fun. Very solid #close. I didn't use canned lines or anything like it, just pure me being myself, being fun and being THE MAN.
Key qualities you should work on:
- being funny
- looking around and knowing whats going on
- LISTEN TO THE GIRLS AROUND YOU AND THE ONE YOU ARE OPENING IS TELLING YOU
- be fun, have a big legitimate smile on your face
- have fun, even in defeat you learn and you grow
- while some "gurus" want you to believe you gotta be the center of the universe, you gotta listen to the hints the girl throws at you, so lean back, relax and catch those hints
- dance around stay where the greater concentration of women is
- don't rationalize it and open the sets
Like anything in life, practice makes perfection. You gotta practice, practice, practice some more until you get the groove of things and you succeed. Good luck and If you got any question post it here in the comments.
PRjav
lunes, 30 de agosto de 2010
Lets go back to basics!!!
What I want to do here is build a base for everybody. If you are proficient, you should go back and recheck that everything is working as it should and correct and fine tune this areas of PU(pick up). This should be the very base of PU. Around a week ago I thought that there was still some basics that needed to be figured out. I knew those basics and I went out and looked for info on those from reputable gurus( the kind that have proven themselves).
A few weeks before that I figured that all the gurus or the proficient PUAs go for the natural game at last. It should be the game we all want to achieve. We want that aura of sexual mastery and seduction that would make every girl cream her panties just by looking at us.
I identified 3 critical areas for this base.
1. Body language this is a very extensive subject and i will try to simplify it without leaving important stuff. If you want to read the whole thing you can go here... in fact you should read the whole thing:
Cajun's Spice: Advanced Body Language
There are 3 parts. You should read them all a couple times, look for the references and work on your body language, doesn't matter if you are a noob or and old realized PUA. There will be something where you can improve for sure. If your body language is strong having a better body language will help you even more. Maybe something basic like this, a foundation its whats stopping you from getting to the next level
BTW theres a new product from cajun about BL but its almost 500$ and I dont have that kind of money. Instead the source of all BL comes from Allan and Barbara Pease. These brothers wrote a very extensive 400+ page book on the subject as a whole. They published one book on the 1970s and that quickly became the source for all BL material and their latest book is the one I'm reading. As soon as I finish that book I will make sure to throughly test all the techniques and all I learn from it. Afterward I will work on making a summarization of all the material that matters to PU. I'm sure this was the book Cajun has used on both his blog posts and in his new material. I would like to have more people working with that book with me so if you want PM me.
2. Confidence.
This covers a couple areas. You need to have a solid self esteem, a little bit of narcissistic love towards yourself, you gotta be proud of yourself and its very important that you have achieved things you have wanted. When you achieve you prove yourself the things you can do. The more things you achieve, the more confident you are going to feel for the next goal. Work hard on your daily situations and become a achiever at work, at your home with projects, in your hobby ect ect.
To be able to show maximum confidence to girls you got to have this attributes to a high level. You need a little bit of narcissistic love towards yourself. When you look in the mirror do you say: damn im hot girls are lucky tonight!! or do you start looking at physical "faults" and how you would change them? If the latter you need a lot of work on your inner game. I did needed a lot of work until I got into a goal. I was fat and out of shape and I still am to a certain degree but I decided I was going to lose some pounds and get solid and I've been doing it(until I hurt my back playing hoops 5 days ago, I'll restart today with the weights), in 2 weeks and 8-10 pounds later I saw the difference. Add that I had a lot of attention from girls and saw some progress and my confidence is thru the roof.
Also very important attributes to have is a NO-QUIT attitude. Dont fucking quit when things get harder. Keep working because when you pass those hard tests you will become a better man and a better PUA.
If something my Natural friend W3 teach me was to be thick skinned. He was, he couldnt care less about what people thought of him, so he didnt needed anything when he was out, he didnt need social proof, approval from people in the pubs, he just was rock solid. You could tell him he look like the duke you let out earlier in the toilet and he would laugh at your face and keep going. He just doesnt care what you think because he knows hes right, hes confident on himself and confidence goes hand to hand with being thick skinned. One protects the other. I cannot say I'm thick skinned but I'm getting there and I could say I'm pretty close.
3. Seduction or sexual escalation. Yes, this is not a base attribute for PU per se but its pretty fucking important so I'll talk about it.
Lets face it, body language and confidence all work towards one goal: creating attraction. Also body language can create rapport but its mainly for attraction. Once that attraction has been built by the previous attributes its time for seduction. When I say after those I mean, you can lock eye contact with her and as soon as you do the attraction is being built.
She gotta feel your sexual energy from miles(aura). As soon as you get to her your mouth could be saying: hi I'm Prjav! but your body language can already be working on the seduction phase. Turn things sexual as soon as she gives you permission. This is a little hard to explain but she may start to look at you with desire. When you feel the desire and her sexual energy start to escalate. Ive heard of guys that kiss within a minute of approaching. Thats another fucking level on the Aura thing. That should be your aim. Kiss as soon as you can. Have her as soon as you can when you want to. Thats the reason why we approach, no? We want her and we are going to take her.
Work on sexual escalation now. A great resource on how to heat things up is found on stealth attraction series. Kino is very important. taking her hands, thighs to thigh contact(dancing is great for this), neck, ears(i had a girl give me pleasure goosebumps one time by sucking a little on my ear) you can accidentally touch boobs and pussy when reaching to grab her arm(gambler)talking to her ears, holding eye contact, pulling her hair, looking at her lips, and I can continue forever lol. But you get the idea. Practice kissing and become good at it. Add all these into your repertoire and do them naturally, let them flow as you feel and dont think about what step and routine you gotta do at the moment, just let them flow and work it on a natural level. All you gotta know is that kissing comes before makeouts, then comes cunnilingus and you should know the rest. Gambler is the man in sexual escalation and you should watch the material thats recommended from him.
Resources:
Allan and barbara Pease,The definite book on body language(will publish another article based on this)
Cajuns old blog
Stealth attraction by Gambler
puahate for REAL reviews of the products
Body language by Julious Fast
A few weeks before that I figured that all the gurus or the proficient PUAs go for the natural game at last. It should be the game we all want to achieve. We want that aura of sexual mastery and seduction that would make every girl cream her panties just by looking at us.
I identified 3 critical areas for this base.
1. Body language this is a very extensive subject and i will try to simplify it without leaving important stuff. If you want to read the whole thing you can go here... in fact you should read the whole thing:
Cajun's Spice: Advanced Body Language
There are 3 parts. You should read them all a couple times, look for the references and work on your body language, doesn't matter if you are a noob or and old realized PUA. There will be something where you can improve for sure. If your body language is strong having a better body language will help you even more. Maybe something basic like this, a foundation its whats stopping you from getting to the next level
BTW theres a new product from cajun about BL but its almost 500$ and I dont have that kind of money. Instead the source of all BL comes from Allan and Barbara Pease. These brothers wrote a very extensive 400+ page book on the subject as a whole. They published one book on the 1970s and that quickly became the source for all BL material and their latest book is the one I'm reading. As soon as I finish that book I will make sure to throughly test all the techniques and all I learn from it. Afterward I will work on making a summarization of all the material that matters to PU. I'm sure this was the book Cajun has used on both his blog posts and in his new material. I would like to have more people working with that book with me so if you want PM me.
2. Confidence.
This covers a couple areas. You need to have a solid self esteem, a little bit of narcissistic love towards yourself, you gotta be proud of yourself and its very important that you have achieved things you have wanted. When you achieve you prove yourself the things you can do. The more things you achieve, the more confident you are going to feel for the next goal. Work hard on your daily situations and become a achiever at work, at your home with projects, in your hobby ect ect.
To be able to show maximum confidence to girls you got to have this attributes to a high level. You need a little bit of narcissistic love towards yourself. When you look in the mirror do you say: damn im hot girls are lucky tonight!! or do you start looking at physical "faults" and how you would change them? If the latter you need a lot of work on your inner game. I did needed a lot of work until I got into a goal. I was fat and out of shape and I still am to a certain degree but I decided I was going to lose some pounds and get solid and I've been doing it(until I hurt my back playing hoops 5 days ago, I'll restart today with the weights), in 2 weeks and 8-10 pounds later I saw the difference. Add that I had a lot of attention from girls and saw some progress and my confidence is thru the roof.
Also very important attributes to have is a NO-QUIT attitude. Dont fucking quit when things get harder. Keep working because when you pass those hard tests you will become a better man and a better PUA.
If something my Natural friend W3 teach me was to be thick skinned. He was, he couldnt care less about what people thought of him, so he didnt needed anything when he was out, he didnt need social proof, approval from people in the pubs, he just was rock solid. You could tell him he look like the duke you let out earlier in the toilet and he would laugh at your face and keep going. He just doesnt care what you think because he knows hes right, hes confident on himself and confidence goes hand to hand with being thick skinned. One protects the other. I cannot say I'm thick skinned but I'm getting there and I could say I'm pretty close.
3. Seduction or sexual escalation. Yes, this is not a base attribute for PU per se but its pretty fucking important so I'll talk about it.
Lets face it, body language and confidence all work towards one goal: creating attraction. Also body language can create rapport but its mainly for attraction. Once that attraction has been built by the previous attributes its time for seduction. When I say after those I mean, you can lock eye contact with her and as soon as you do the attraction is being built.
She gotta feel your sexual energy from miles(aura). As soon as you get to her your mouth could be saying: hi I'm Prjav! but your body language can already be working on the seduction phase. Turn things sexual as soon as she gives you permission. This is a little hard to explain but she may start to look at you with desire. When you feel the desire and her sexual energy start to escalate. Ive heard of guys that kiss within a minute of approaching. Thats another fucking level on the Aura thing. That should be your aim. Kiss as soon as you can. Have her as soon as you can when you want to. Thats the reason why we approach, no? We want her and we are going to take her.
Work on sexual escalation now. A great resource on how to heat things up is found on stealth attraction series. Kino is very important. taking her hands, thighs to thigh contact(dancing is great for this), neck, ears(i had a girl give me pleasure goosebumps one time by sucking a little on my ear) you can accidentally touch boobs and pussy when reaching to grab her arm(gambler)talking to her ears, holding eye contact, pulling her hair, looking at her lips, and I can continue forever lol. But you get the idea. Practice kissing and become good at it. Add all these into your repertoire and do them naturally, let them flow as you feel and dont think about what step and routine you gotta do at the moment, just let them flow and work it on a natural level. All you gotta know is that kissing comes before makeouts, then comes cunnilingus and you should know the rest. Gambler is the man in sexual escalation and you should watch the material thats recommended from him.
Resources:
Allan and barbara Pease,The definite book on body language(will publish another article based on this)
Cajuns old blog
Stealth attraction by Gambler
puahate for REAL reviews of the products
Body language by Julious Fast
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