Extensive Body Language Material Part 1

 Handshake

One of the very basics on BL is a handshake. The position of your palm demonstrates your position in the interaction:

if your palm is up it means you are submissive
If your palm is down it means dominance(example the nazi salute)
If your palm is vertical it means equal footing.

Whenever you want to meet a person you should try to use the vertical position. The only way where I would use a submissive position is if I  got like 10 dudes surrounding me and they want to beat me up like a piñata because I was hitting on his GF. Even in that situation being dominant could help more than submissive but that's a whole different topic.

Then theres force, if you use more you show dominance, if you use less than the other person submissiveness. 

Touching the elbow or the shoulder with the left hand shows intimacy between the two of you. Since handshaking in a bar is something thats not very sexual I encourage you to use it.

S(these S will Summarrize the previous point into a simple sentence): When meeting a new girl, go for the vertical handshake and use equal force as hers.This will create rapport between the two of you. With your left hand touch the elbow of the shoulder, this shows intimacy and its a great way to establish Kino early on.

Smiles:

Two sets of muscles control the cheeks and retracts the eyes. Everybody can fake a smile, the true smile that cant be held back or faked is the one where the eyes also close a little bit. Its called a smile with the eyes and its pretty much that, the smile and the eyes getting closed. Like this:(yay tits : P )

Sincere smiling produces wrinkles around the eyes. Smiling shows submissiveness. It asks for acceptance from the other person. When someone lies and smiles the left side gets more pronounced. When people lie they tent to smile less since they realize that people associate smiling with lying. When you get in trouble and you are innocent and actually telling the truth you are in a sbmissive state. Thus you tend to smile more, while people lying try to hide the smile and other signs of body language believing it actually shows they are being truthful.

There are 5 basic types of smiles

1. tight lipped smile: this one shows that the person is hiding something. 

2. twisted lip smile- in this one the person is smiling only on one side of his face. the other side remains serious. This smile is mostly done in the Americas and it means sarcasm.

3. Drop jaw smile: its a type of smile where the person is smiling with his mouth widely open because his jaw is opened. This one shows that person is happy or playful.

4.  Sideways looking up smile: Its used to gain affection. Was widely used by princess Diana. In courtship it means approach me.

5. George Bush grin: Its mostly a custom from being from the south(Texas) where people are used to always smile. If he were not people would think hes angry or unhappy about something. In the north people think that he knows something he doesn't want to tell.

S: if you see a sideways looking up smile don't walk over to the girl, RUN!

I will try to post examples of all these smiles and gestures later tonight. Will work on part two in the next couple of days so be on the lookout. 

Lets go back to basics!!!

What I want to do here is build a base for everybody. If you are proficient, you should go back and recheck that everything is working as it should and correct and fine tune this areas of PU(pick up). This should be the very base of PU. Around a week ago I thought that there was still some basics that needed to be figured out. I knew those basics and I went out and looked for info on those from reputable gurus( the kind that have proven themselves).

A few weeks before that I figured that all the gurus or the proficient PUAs go for the natural game at last. It should be the game we all want to achieve.  We want that aura of sexual mastery and seduction that would make every girl cream her panties just by looking at us.

I identified 3 critical areas for this base.

1. Body language this is a very extensive subject and i will try to simplify it without leaving important stuff. If you want to read the whole thing you can go here... in fact you should read the whole thing:
Cajun's Spice: Advanced Body Language

There are 3 parts. You should read them all a couple times, look for the references and work on your body language, doesn't matter if you are a noob or and old realized PUA. There will be something where you can improve for sure. If your body language is strong having a better body language will help you even more. Maybe something basic like this, a foundation its whats stopping you from getting to the next level

BTW theres a new product from cajun about BL but its almost 500$ and I dont have that kind of money. Instead the source of all BL comes from Allan and Barbara Pease. These brothers wrote a very extensive 400+ page book on the subject as a whole. They published one book on the 1970s and that quickly became the source for all BL material and their latest book is the one I'm reading. As soon as I finish that book I will make sure to throughly test all the techniques and all I learn from it. Afterward I will work on making a summarization of all the material that matters to PU. I'm sure this was the book Cajun has used on both his blog posts and in his new material. I would like to have more people working with that book with me so if you want PM me.


2. Confidence.

This covers a couple areas. You need to have a solid self esteem, a little bit of narcissistic love towards yourself, you gotta be proud of yourself and its very important that you have achieved things you have wanted. When you achieve you prove yourself the things you can do. The more things you achieve, the more confident you are going to feel for the next goal. Work hard on your daily situations and become a achiever at work, at your home with projects, in your hobby ect ect.

To be able to show maximum confidence to girls you got to have this attributes to a high level. You need a little bit of narcissistic love towards yourself. When you look in the mirror do you say: damn im hot girls are lucky tonight!! or do you start looking at physical "faults" and how you would change them? If the latter you need a lot of work on your inner game. I did needed a lot of work until I got into a goal. I was fat and out of shape and I still am to a certain degree but I decided I was going to lose some pounds and get solid and I've been doing it(until I hurt my back playing hoops 5 days ago, I'll restart today with the weights), in 2 weeks and 8-10 pounds later I saw the difference. Add that I had a lot of attention from girls and saw some progress and my confidence is thru the roof.

Also very important attributes to have is a NO-QUIT attitude. Dont fucking quit when things get harder. Keep working because when you pass those hard tests you will become a better man and a better PUA.

If something my Natural friend W3 teach me was to be thick skinned. He was, he couldnt care less about what people thought of him, so he didnt needed anything when he was out, he didnt need social proof, approval from people in the pubs, he just was rock solid. You could tell him he look like the duke you let out earlier in the toilet and he would laugh at your face and keep going. He just doesnt care what you think because he knows hes right, hes confident on himself and confidence goes hand to hand with being thick skinned. One protects the other. I cannot say I'm thick skinned but I'm getting there and I could say I'm pretty close.



3. Seduction or sexual escalation. Yes, this is not a base attribute for PU per se but its pretty fucking important so I'll talk about it.

Lets face it, body language and confidence all work towards one goal: creating attraction. Also body language can create rapport but its mainly for attraction. Once that attraction has been built by the previous attributes its time for seduction. When I say after those I mean, you can lock eye contact with her and as soon as you do the attraction is being built.

She gotta feel your sexual energy from miles(aura). As soon as you get to her your mouth could be saying: hi I'm Prjav! but your body language can already be working on the seduction phase. Turn things sexual as soon as she gives you permission. This is a little hard to explain but she may start to look at you with desire. When you feel the desire and her sexual energy start to escalate. Ive heard of guys that kiss within a minute of approaching. Thats another fucking level on the Aura thing. That should be your aim. Kiss as soon as you can. Have her as soon as you can when you want to. Thats the reason why we approach, no? We want her and we are going to take her.

Work on sexual escalation now. A great resource on how to heat things up is found on stealth attraction series. Kino is very important. taking her hands, thighs to thigh contact(dancing is great for this), neck, ears(i had a girl give me pleasure goosebumps one time by sucking a little on my ear) you can accidentally touch boobs and pussy when reaching to grab her arm(gambler)talking to her ears, holding eye contact, pulling her hair, looking at her lips, and I can continue forever lol. But you get the idea. Practice kissing and become good at it. Add all these into your repertoire and do them naturally, let them flow as you feel and dont think about what step and routine you gotta do at the moment, just let them flow and work it on a natural level. All you gotta know is that kissing comes before makeouts, then comes cunnilingus and you should know the rest. Gambler is the man in sexual escalation and you should watch the material thats recommended from him.


Resources:



Allan and barbara Pease,The definite book on body language(will publish another article based on this)
Cajuns old blog
Stealth attraction by Gambler
puahate for REAL reviews of the products
Body language by Julious Fast